Often times I find that my clients have such a hard time when I ask them to back up from where they are in their journey because they’ve missed a step or two. And while you may say to yourself that you’d love to jump over a step or two in your journey, I want you to think about the reasons why this is so important.

When we go through a learning process we are often working through emotions or other obstacles that have been blocking our ability to drive our life purpose. And if we choose to skip over this obstacle, we are missing out on the chance to learn a new experience, and work through a life blockage. Now that obstacle may go away quietly for a while, but I promise you that it will always reappear if you haven’t worked through it. I explain this process like this to clients. Life initially tosses a stone in your path. If you pick it up then you can easily toss it to the side of the road, or even put it in your pocket and move on. If you ignore it life then throws a brick at you. And that can hurt depending on if it actually hits you or not. If you can learn what you need to then, you can use it to build your foundation. If you choose, however, to not listen to it, life will then drop a wall on you. Life will make you listen one way or another.

So when you realize that you’ve missed a few lessons on the path, go back and pick them up. In the end you’ll be far better off than taking the short cut, and you’ll learn something magical that you were meant to learn anyway.

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Over the past, jumping to conclusions – well I’ve seen how that road goes. People in this day and age are just ready to go after you because they’ve been hurt, they been used, they’ve learned that the way to get ahead is my letting trust go out the window. I think it’s a sad that we’ve let go of the open heart that we were born with.

I personally am an open book – and that can be hard at times because I’m willing to let it go the first time you run my over in the parking garage with your Hummer. The second time I may start to question things. The third time I’m just going to bring myself to the realization that I’ve been had and you really wanted to run me over. I’ve not always been that way. As a young woman I felt like I had to fight for everything – but as I started giving more to others – I found that giving was far better than receiving. I found that when I had a full heart, my heart was open to becoming even fuller.

This Christmas we helped a wonderful family of girls – ages 4, 8 and 16. They had been living in the homeless shelter with their grandmother and when she had “things” happen they went to live with the Great Aunt. The Aunt already having two children at home, and two children she is responsible for that have just both had babies – she didn’t know what to do for Christmas. My sister told me about this and I posted on Facebook. Before long my phone was ringing. Friends of friends just wanting to step up and help these children that they would most likely never meet. Just wanting to give and jump out there and help. I think that this is a lesson that when you jump with an open heart – with nothing to gain — with no reason for it — you fly high. When you jump with a hardness, with blinders on, with no sense of trust in your heart you fall flat on your behind. I would counsel that you stop, and appreciate the little things – ask others how you can help them, ask yourself how you can JUMP today as you move one day closer to 2010. Open hearts receive – closed hearts are empty.

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